cancer February 01 and he? went through a horrible time with this disease and died 6 months later. Their 41st anniversary was in June 01 (the last one they had together) and it was just days before he was confined to the bed until he passed. My father took my mother out to eat at a very nice place to celebrate. He passed away in August of 01 so that dinner was the last place they ate together outside of their home, AND it was their anniversary. My mom ended up marrying someone else this past year, 5 years later, and I found out the other day that she met my brother to drop something off to him, with her new husband at the same place my dad had taken her to celebrate their anniversary. Would this upset anyone else? By the way, my brother had no idea that's where our Dad had taken her.
Sorry, I forgot...not just drop something off...they actually went in and ate.

first of all, im so sorry for your loss. I think you need to openly talk with your mother about how much significance this place has and ask her why she felt it okay to go there knowing thats the last place your father took her. People move on and she may not have been trying to say shes forgotten your father or doesnt care, but maybe shes trying to put the pain past her and she may even enjoy going there BECAUSE it reminds her of your father. talk with her about it and let her know how you feel so theres no resentment. again, im so sorry for your loss.

I am sure that your Dad would be pleased that your mother has found further happiness in her life since his passing.
The fact that your mother chose that meeting place shows it holds happy memories for her. If your mother is comfortable with returning to places that she went with your father then the family should be happy for her.
& NO I would not be upset by something like that